A few years ago, my mom and I were discussing certain personal matters. She mentioned that she had found a way to let go of her frustrations with my grandfather – who was already deceased. I was interested.
One of the biggest challenges we have sometimes is dealing with internal mayhem that we have due to interactions with other people. It’s not always possible to discuss things with the other side either due to things like death (irreversible) or because no matter how much you may have tried coming to a mutual understanding with them, it’s just not happening. There is the option of letting these frustrations eat you from the inside and cause more lack of serenity, stress, frustration OR we can find a way to let it go.
Ah… “Let it go, you’ll feel better”
We’ve all heard it but let’s be honest – it’s not an easy thing to do, is it? If you’re a regular follower of this blog you know that I don’t believe in just giving you theories. The idea is to give you actionable information which you can use to better your life.
So here’s the trick.
Write them a letter. Don’t send it to them but let all your thoughts out on paper and put it aside. A few weeks later, go back to it and edit it. You’ll notice your view of it is different already. A few weeks after that, go to it again and edit it again. Each time you do this, you’ll notice that you are less frustrated and a lot more calm.
At some point, you’ll just look at the letter and you’ll realise that at this point, sending it to them (even if you can) will just awaken things in you that are already calm.
Congratulations! You’ve now free from the issue.
Quick thought before you go – please do not confuse being free from it emotionally to forgetting it. There is a big difference between both. Forgetting things is never the goal. Being free from the inner turmoil and mayhem is the goal.